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Dear Shay
We are a gay
couple who have found our spiritual path after many years of searching.
This path includes comfortable nudity shared with other worshippers. If it
feels this comfortable, should we continue?
RT
Dear RT
When applying
the concept of comfort zones, nothing can tell you better than your own
feelings. So long as no one is taking advantage and the two of you feel
this is right for you, carry on. However, if the comfort level changes in
any way, reopen discussions with your partner about whether or not you
still wish to attend/participate.
Dear Shay
My lover (of 4 years)
and I like to play with adult toys and have been trying to figure out a
way to incorporate these into our sex magic. Any suggestions?
PK
Dear PK
Sex Magic is as
variant as the people who practice any form of it. If you and your lover
are comfortable, try experimenting. A few suggestions for you.
As in all candle magic, anointing a candle with essential oils or
herbs is a common practice to empower the candle. Perhaps this can be
worked in to your rituals? The
Great Rite of the witches is always an option, practicing real as opposed
to symbolic sex with your partner. Try Amber Blackwood’s interpretation
of the Sacred Greeting. Click
here. Congrats on having a relationship where you are free to practice
your faith in comfort!
Dear Shay
What do you think of
the Kama Sutra? Does it really have merit as a sexual guide?
Judd
Dear Judd
The Kama Sutra was
written as a guide to behavior. It has become known for its teaching of
sexuality and circumstance. It held high value at a time and place in
history where behavior was governed by place in society and background. Of
course, its value now benefits many who seek the older traditions based on
their concentration and commitment. By
all means, read the great works, including the Kama Sutra, DeSade and so
many more. Your views can only benefit, widen and develop.
Dear Shay
I’m 17 and joined a
group of people studying sex magic, about a year ago. We’ve talked about
many different paths. The woman who’s house we meet at (she seems to
have started the group) has asked us to bond by getting a very small
tattoo on the right shoulder. The design is a mix of oriental design and a
flame. It’s very small, but I’m not comfortable with being asked to do
this. I like these people and don’t want to stop going.
Barb
Dear Barb
Don’t. If it’s not
comfortable to you, don’t. This woman would really have no good reason
asking such a thing of anyone, even under circumstances of coven-hood,
worship group or multiple-partner marriage. Tattoos are very permanent and
not easily removed. I do hope all members of this group will think before
agreeing. You might want to speak with them privately to see how they
feel. They may just agree with your perspective.
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Shay
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