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Tantra, Monogamy And Safe Sex
By Al Link
The concern about safe sex has resulted in a
revival of monogamy. But there is no turning back the clock. Sex is out of
the closet since the free love days of the sixties. The problem with
monogamy has always been boredom. The initial passion drops off pretty
rapidly in a typical relationship, but not the lust of sexual desire.
Eventually, the right (or wrong) set of circumstances come together and
you have infidelity. It’s not that people are bad, they are just human.
To be human is to be in a body. To be in a
body is to be sexual. For men being sexual means they sometimes think with
what is between their legs instead of what is inside their head. But a
man’s penis is single minded , ruthless and often as not, amoral. A
penis knows only desire, and when the hot sexual energy is active, you
might as well be dealing with an addict. At such a moment all a man can
think of is how to get the next fix. At such times there are few men alive
who can resist the inviting smile on a pretty woman’s face, or the
parting of her legs.
Fortunately we now have Sacred Sex.
Actually, Tantra has been around for thousands of years. There are those
who have learned that the best sex, the kind that makes the Earth shake
and the Cosmos split open, sometimes transporting the lovers right our of
their bodies, is energy sex, not just friction between two people.
Tantra Sacred Sex is high energy sex. Once
you have learned the practices of Sacred Sex, sex could never again become
boring. This is how you keep monogamy hot. This is how you keep your lover
happy at home. Sacred Sex is not your standard roll in the hay.
Sacred Sex is an art and a way of life. It
involves considerable skill. Skill requires practice, and right practice
leads to mastery. Mastery translates into mutual satisfaction, through and
through, for both Sacred Sex partners. With Sacred Sex, every encounter is
unique, new, exciting, mysterious and sometimes awesome.
With sacred high-energy sex, lovemaking can
last many hours. As the hot sexual energy builds up and the lovers learn
to circulate it through their bodies, they awaken their higher spiritual
centers. Various degrees of satori become available. Anyone who has ever
experienced even the lower states of satori will need no convincing that
by comparison, ordinary happiness is, well, just ordinary.
At first the disciplined learning of the
physical practices of Sacred Sex will often feel awkward, uncomfortable,
and possibly scary. There almost always is a period of such frustration
that the learner wants to conclude, “This doesn’t work. I can’t do
it. This is too hard.” They want to quit. But with persistence and some
small FAITH, they experience a breakthrough. Perhaps they suddenly “get
it.” When you “get it” what seemed ridiculously complex, and
impossibly difficult, becomes easy, like riding a bike. Once you can do
it, you can always do it. You never forget.
The physical techniques involved include
muscle contraction exercises (the cranial and sacral pumps), breathing
techniques, learning to stay relaxed under the influence of intense sexual
stimulation, and learning to stay fully present in the moment. You have to
keep your attention in the same place for more than a few seconds. It
helps if you throw in some knowledge of the man’s prostate gland, a bit
of acupressure to help move blocked energy, and emotional release
techniques to unlock feelings. If you also add in a healthy dose of
respect, lots of playfulness, a bit of surrender and letting go, your life
will never be the same. Men won’t need Viagra any time soon -
guaranteed.
Al
Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra.
They regularly host Tantra Sacred Loving weekends near Ottawa Canada, and
weeklong retreats in exotic locations around the planet. For more
information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308
International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their website http://www.tantra-sex.com/
or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com
Their book, Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, is published by New Page Books,
2003.
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Copyright 2005
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